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Aug 20, 2017

#7 - How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage

Passage: Exodus 20:14

Preacher: Pastor Tim W. Young

Series: Ten Commandments - Ten Steps to the Good Life

Category: Exodus

Summary:

Main Text - Exodus 20:14; OT Reading - Gen 39:4-12, WLC Reading - Q 137, 138, 139; NT Reading - Matthew 5:27-32; Heidelberg Catechism Reading - Q 108, 109; Gathering Songs - 10,000 Reasons; Call to Worship Song/Hymn - Lord Prepare Me To Be a Sanctuary; Opening Hymn - Holy god, We Praise Your Name (NTH #103); Songs and Hymns of Preparation - Holy, Holy Holy, Holy Is the Lord; Holy, Holy, Holy (NTH #100); Closing Hymn - Blest The Man That Fears Jehovah (NTH #717); NTH = New Trinity Hymnal; WLC = Westminster Larger Catechism

Detail:

Ten Steps to the Good Life

#7– How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage

Exodus 20:14  “You shall not commit adultery”

 

Affair proof your marriage by Facing your Weakness and strengthening your relationship

 

Admit Your Vulnerability

 

     - by design you are a                                                Gen 1:27 & 2:24

                             

     - Designed for three purposes

 

                Gen 1:28                               Song 1:1 - 8:14                          Gen 2:24

 

     - Sex has been distorted by sin in

               Gen 2:25 & 3:7 -  

               Gen 9:20-25 –  

 

       -Therefore we must                                                                             Proverbs 16:18  

 

Guard Your Sexuality

 

     -Adultery does not exist in  

 

               Matthew 5:27-28

               Proverbs 6:25-28

                             

     Adultery must be confronted at…                                                     Matthew 5:29-30  

 

     Learn from Joseph – Gen 39:2-12

               Vss. 8-9  Argue against  

               Vs 10 – Avoid any  

               Vs 12 – Be willing and ready to appear  

 

  1. Cultivate Your Intimacy  -  

 

     - Settle in your mind and heart that divorce is                                     Matthew 19:6

                               

     - Nurture your marriage by becoming more and more…                 Matthew 19:5-6

              

     -Protect each other by growing in satisfying love for each other

                                Ephesians 5:28-30  

                                1 Peter 3:1-2 

 

               The great killers of marriage  aren’t the big sins….

 

               Pray for and with each other –                                                    1 Peter 3:7    

Westminster Larger Catechism

http://www.paullytle.com/WLC/index.html    with Scripture Proofs from the ESV

 

http://www.reformed.org/documents/wlc_w_proofs/

 

  1. 137. What is the seventh commandment?
  2. The seventh commandment is, Thou shalt not commit adultery.1

 

  1. 138. What are the duties required in the seventh commandment?
  2. The duties required in the seventh commandment are, chastity in body, mind, affections,1 words,2 and behavior;3 and the preservation of it in ourselves and others;4 watchfulness over the eyes and all the senses;5 temperance,6 keeping of chaste company,7 modesty in apparel;8 marriage by those that have not the gift of continency,9 conjugal love,10 and cohabitation;11 diligent labor in our callings;12 shunning all occasions of uncleanness, and resisting temptations thereunto.13

 

  1. 139. What are the sins forbidden in the seventh commandment?
  2. The sins forbidden in the seventh commandment, besides the neglect of the duties required,1 are, adultery, fornication,2 rape, incest,3 sodomy, and all unnatural lusts;4 all unclean imaginations, thoughts, purposes, and affections;5 all corrupt or filthy communications, or listening thereunto;6 wanton looks,7 impudent or light behaviour, immodest apparel;8 prohibiting of lawful,9 and dispensing with unlawful marriages;10 allowing, tolerating, keeping of stews, and resorting to them;11 entangling vows of single life,12 undue delay of marriage,13 having more wives or husbands than one at the same time;14 unjust divorce,15 or desertion;16 idleness, gluttony, drunkenness,17 unchaste company;18 lascivious songs, books, pictures, dancings, stage plays;19 and all other provocations to, or acts of uncleanness, either in ourselves or others.20

 

Heidelberg Catechism Question # 108, 109

 

http://www.reformed.org/documents/heidelberg.html

 

http://www.ligonier.org/learn/articles/heidelberg-catechism-1563/

 

 

Question 108. What does the seventh commandment teach us?

Answer: That all uncleanness is accursed of God: (a) and that therefore we must with all our hearts detest the same, (b) and live chastely and temperately, (c) whether in holy wedlock, or in single life. (d)

(a) Lev.18:27 (For all these abominations have the men of the land done, which were before you, and the land is defiled;) Lev.18:28 That the land spue not you out also, when ye defile it, as it spued out the nations that were before you. (b) Jude 1:23 And others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire; hating even the garment spotted by the flesh. (c) 1 Thess.4:3 For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: 1 Thess.4:4 That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; 1 Thess.4:5 Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: (d) Heb.13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. 1 Cor.7:7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 1 Cor.7:8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 1 Cor.7:9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. 1 Cor.7:27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.

Question 109. Does God forbid in this commandment, only adultery, and such like gross sins?

Answer: Since both our body and soul are temples of the holy Ghost, he commands us to preserve them pure and holy: therefore he forbids all unchaste actions, gestures, words, (a) thoughts, desires, (b) and whatever can entice men thereto. (c)

(a) Eph.5:3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Eph.5:4 Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks. 1 Cor.6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 1 Cor.6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 1 Cor.6:20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. (b) Matt.5:27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: Matt.5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. (c) Eph.5:18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; 1 Cor.15:33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.